Did you know that it’s often not the bad things that keep you from doing what you really want to be doing?
It can be the good things.
Let me tell you about something I miss greatly in my life:
Playing Call of Duty on my PS3 with my brother, Ben, and good friend, Mark.
Honestly, aside from being so much fun to destroy teenagers with fellow dad’s, it was a really good way to just chat and stay in touch with what was going on in their lives.
And I miss that. We don’t talk as much as we used to.
But there was a cost to this good thing in my life.
I spent 1400 hours playing it over the course of 9 months.
And there were a lot of great things I could’ve done with those 1400 hours.
So I finally got up the courage to disappoint two of my favourite people in the world and tell them I was selling my PS3.
But I certainly don’t regret it.
Because in the last year, I’ve learned photography, videography, stepped up my social media game, started a YouTube channel, and gained more hours for my family.
Giving up a good thing has helped me find new passion, energy, and I’m now getting paid to do a lot more stuff than I used to because of it.
Oh, and I’m super-thankful that my brother started a bi-weekly wings night that Mark comes to, too, so we have a chance to stay in touch.
Here’s the thing, though – you can’t just give up something good and expect something great to come along.
You’ll just fall back into something good – or worse – something bad.
There’s a few keys I’ve found that have helped me fill good things with great things:
1. Invest in something new
For me, I like toys. And I’ve talked about how I spend money on things that I don’t always use. But for every one thing that I don’t end up using, there’s another one that I do and I love it. Sometimes you don’t know until you try.
Putting some money where you mouth is helps you be accountable for doing something new. A new PS4 game is like $70 when it comes out. Your PS4 or Xbox One is probably worth $300-$400. There’s A LOT of cool stuff you can buy with that.
2. Make sure you have an outlet for it
It’s way to easy to buy something and let is sit on the shelf. I remember when I wanted to learn to the play the piano at 12. I paid for the lessons myself. But I never practiced more than 5 minutes. Why?
There was no motivation because I didn’t have the pressure or joy of having some way to share it.
Fast-forward a few years and I bought a bass guitar because I wanted to learn it. I immediately signed up to play for youth group. A mixture of the pressure and excitement and accountability to others made practicing way easier because I knew I was going to be on a stage.
I’m always trying to find ways to use new things I’m learning whether that be volunteering for a maternity shoot, convincing a client to do a video project, or making myself actually vlog because I really just wanted a vlogging camera for the sake of having one.
3. Don’t wait for it to be perfect
That’s one of those things big business leaders say that makes us peons roll our eyes.
Easy for you to say when you have all the security in the world.
But I’ve honestly been learning that you learn way faster and get much better when you accept that you never arrive – only get better.
So whatever you have, if you put it out there, the next time it will be better.
Does that make sense? What’s something you’ve been wanting to try but haven’t taken the leap yet? Do you have a story of something good that you traded for something great?
I’d love to hear from you!!